Unpretty – my perspective
Well, my my my. Between Samathana Brick’s http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2124246/Samantha-Brick-downsides-looking-pretty-Why-women-hate-beautiful.html and Ashley Judd’s http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/04/09/ashley-judd-slaps-media-in-the-face-for-speculation-over-her-puffy-appearance.html there has been a firestorm of opinion lately about what makes a woman beautiful and being judged on appearances. I think it is a very healthy debate.
I am going to share with you my personal take : Beauty is not what we look like outside. Real, true, honest beauty lives inside a person. In that sense, every person can be seen as beautiful.
Believing that we should always return to the “owner’s manual” for guidance, what does the Bible say consitutes a beautiful woman?
Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
I Peter 3:3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.
I don’t believe these are meant to put down or restrict woman in any way. What I believe they are trying to convey is that woman should concentrate on nurturing the inner beauty inside each one of us, more than the outer stuff.
I think this puts what I am trying to say so much more eloquently than I ever could.
For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge you’ll never walk alone.
People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed; Never throw out anybody.
Remember, If you ever need a helping hand, you’ll find one at the end of your arm.
As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.
The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows, and the beauty of a woman with passing years only grows!
(Contrary to what some may think, Audrey Hepburn did not write this beautiful poem, Sam Levenson did. Levenson wrote “Time Tested Beauty Tips” for his grandchild, and it just so happened to be one of Audrey’s favorite poems.)
So don’t worry if you don’t look like the latest airbrushed “it” girl gracing the covers of all the magazines, or if you can’t look like the most popular one at school.
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. ” Psalm 139:14
In other words, God never makes junk. Never ever let yourself feel less than because of what you may look like outwardly.
In that light, I leave you with a video with great perspective on the subject.
You are a wonder. Go forth and shine your beauty to all that you come into contact with.